Board Thread:Community Announcements and Events/@comment-4799587-20140912224150/@comment-26474238-20140913153101

Harold Burned-Mane wrote:

GarouxBloodline wrote: I am not going to put words into her mouth, but most cancer survivors that I have known, including within my own family, absolutely hated the thought of putting their ailment into a spotlight, and having others feel sorry for them / having everyone being constantly reminded of the ailment and treating them differently. The last thing a survivor of such a disease is going to want, is to be treated differently, when they are fighting every second of their lives to return to some modicum of normalicy.

Which is why I believe we shouldn't keep her with the flag solely because of her illness.

While I admit the message I suggested would also cause a similar problem, as it is basically telling everyone about her condition, I think it can be tweaked to not cause this problem. But then again, I didn't know her personally so I don't know who she would feel about the whole thing. There is a fine-line involved, but the line is still there. Creating a unique title for her, and making some huge public spectacle about her condition, is treating her as if she is a different person, which is not going to allow her to feel normal while at this wiki. But when she shows that she was dedicated to this wiki, and was forced to take a leave of absence due to her condition, then allowing her time to come back is simply giving her the respect that she deserves - we are not treating her as if she was an alien.

Just like if there was a handicapped man that needed to get to the top floor of a building for a meeting, we would either move the meeting to the bottom floor, help him up, or post-pone the meeting until they got up themselves. That is just showing respect, and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, this is all irrelevant, should the appropriate people send her a discreet message, and should she get back with us over her personal wishes on this subject. So long as we avoid a public spectacle.