Talk:Marriage (Skyrim)

Can anyone cite this feature? A link, preferably? BlackCataclysm (talk) 00:15, July 11, 2011 (UTC)

Revert
The craziness on this article should probably be reverted. I think it goes too far back to undo. At any rate, I'm pretty sure characters can pursue a heterosexual or homosexual marriage. I read it here, not sure how reliable. Also, during the quest with Saadia, the Alik'r man made hints that she had tempted my female character with sex. Just a thought. --Deyvid Petteys 02:31, November 12, 2011 (UTC)

You can pursue homosexual relationships with NPCs.

Source: http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6058/6342627739_d210735bee_b.jpg

--JJustin Tisdale (talk) 05:31, November 14, 2011 (UTC)

How is this page NOT a category? Can't link this with individual characters? Please help! Thanks SephirothLaw (talk) 11:32, November 12, 2011 (UTC)

If you can get married then can you get divorced?

No marriage dialogue
I randomly found an Amulet of Mara in a chest in an inn, and decided to steal it. I put it on, but I don't get any of that dialogue with Lydia. I haven't met the guy that's supposed to sell it though. Maybe I have to do that first?174.51.67.63 06:16, January 9, 2012 (UTC)

Apparently you have to meet a prerequisite for the marriage options to unlock. It'd be nice if they were listed. --Squeegy (talk) 08:20, November 13, 2011 (UTC)

I have the same problem, I went to about 4 females and none of them give me the dialog. 128.227.69.210 19:07, November 13, 2011 (UTC)


 * A bug can occur during the wedding ceremony at the Temple of Mara. After Maramal pronounces the player and the player's NPC of choice married, the NPC may start walking toward the temple's exit before Maramal is done speaking and player can move. If the NPC leaves the temple before the player can speak to him/her about where they will live, then the NPC will disappear. They will reappear if they are part of a quest, like Ysolda in "A Night to Remember".

I had this "Bug" happen to me. The NPC walked out of the temple before the priest was finished speaking, but he didn't just vanish or whatever. The NPC was outside like normal and I could talk to him and discuss our living arrangements there.

Wierd situation involving marriage.... I found an "Amulet of Mara" on a bandit. From what I know you have to get the "Amulet " from Maramal in order to get married. I have the bandit one and it doesnt give me the dialogue option. But maramel will not sell me a new one. How do I get around this and get Married??

Geokujin208.94.87.149 22:14, November 13, 2011 (UTC)

EtA: Geokujin, I had the same problem, ish. I was wearing the Amulet of Mara when I talked to Maramel, but then I took it off and talked him again, and he had it available. Hope that helps!

Just let me clarify something- You HAVE to buy Maramel's Amulet of Mara to get married. Any others might seem the same, but I think a script stops you from getting married without first buying Maramel's Amulet and then wearing that when talking to the person you want to marry. Hope I helped! Superkid3112 (Not logged in, sorry 'bout that!)

Actually person above. I got married using an Amulet I got from a chest. Just had to talk to him about weddings and etc. 64.126.170.21 10:27, December 14, 2011 (UTC)

Marriage to NPC -
So, I've been toting Erik the Slayer (Rorikstead) around as my follower, because I quite like him and hadn't figured out the marriage thing. So I found out about it, got the Amulet of Mara, and keep looking at him expectantly, but it doesn't trigger. I have a quest pending for Balimund the blacksmith in Riften, and I can't get the marriage dialogue to trigger for him either.

Help? Is this a bug with just Erik, or overall? I'm at level 28 and haven't gone to Whiterun (main quest) yet, if that helps.

You usually have to do some sort of quest for each person to be able to marry them. So you need to finish Balimund's quest to get the marriage dialogue from him. As for Erik, I have no clue. I'd like to figure out what you have to do to marry followers as well. I've had Lydia following me constantly (I don't want to marry her, but I know she can be married) and the option hasn't come up yet with her. According to Lydia's talk page, there is a rumor that there is some sort of randomly triggered quest. So maybe the same is true for Erik (if true at all) Soledestiny (talk) 17:56, November 14, 2011 (UTC)

Well, that sort of makes sense, the randomly triggered quest, but I don't think that's the case. I reverted back to a really early save, where I had Roggi Knot-Beard as my follower. I dragged him to Riften, bought the Amulet from Muramel, turned around, talked to Roggi, and he had the marriage dialogue ("Interested in me, are you?").

If it makes a difference, I didn't buy the Amulet of Mara the first time I spoke to Muramel. I couldn't find him again, left it be, and went about my business for a great many game hours. Somewhere somehow along the way I came across an Amulet of Mara, and put it on. Talked to Erik - nada. Went back to Riften, managed to find Muramel, bought the Amulet again, put it on, talked to Erik, again nada.

Not sure if that makes a difference, lol.

Can Somone add in pictures for all the women you can marry on this page? It be nice to get a good look at whose available instead of having to click a link to see each and every one.

Can you marry more than once?
My spouse 'died', and I want to marry again, is this possible? King Ratcliffe (talk) 17:10, November 14, 2011 (UTC)

Still need help on this!King Ratcliffe (talk) 17:58, November 14, 2011 (UTC) ta

Having the same issue, seems to be a bug wherein if your spouse dies you cannot remarry, and using the console command 'addfac 19809 1' doesn't work - Pen

I too, am having difficulty, My spouse died in battle with a dragon as my follower. (Farkas) I am Unable to marry again I believe. Though, everytime I relieve a Follower, They Comment with " I'll Be At Home If You Need Me."

Not so sure on what to do.(PS3) ~Anya Morrowind.

Unfortunately, I don't think the marriage quest resets when a spouse dies. I had to reset it via console command after my wife's mysterious death, so if you're on PS3 or Xbox you may be out of luck. -Lothar of the Hill People

Poligamy?
Poligamy? Like in Fable, is it possible to have several wives in different towns?

68.239.61.241 02:11, November 16, 2011 (UTC)Ash

I don't believe so but i think you can remarry. Zombie says BLARG 19:32, November 24, 2011 (UTC)

MARRY Camilla she gives you $$ often
If you marry Camilla Valerious from Riverwood she will reward you with a cut of her profits from the store she owns. im not sure if othe NPC offer this or not. But i have made well over 6000 gold in the last few days. i believe it is 100g every 24 hours and you can let them add up as long as you want. She just gave me 1800 before this post. Also not sure if you get married to a merchant that has a high profit store that you will get more $. I am tempted to get a divorce and seek out a sucker in solitude.


 * I believe that no matter who you marry, they will open a store in your house and give you 100 gold per day.Atallison (talk) 18:18, November 18, 2011 (UTC)


 * As the article says most people you marry will give you 100 gold per day which stacks per day so after 18 days youll get 1800 gold on average. Zombie says BLARG 19:35, November 24, 2011 (UTC)

Requirements for marriage?
There appear to be requirements for all characters to get the marriage line, not sure what any of them are tho maybe delving into the code may help? Its that or there is a major bug preventing some people from getting married.

Im currently trying to get married in riften will try to become a thane see if that helps.

All the available bachlors and bachlorettes require you to complete a task or quest for them before they express intrest in you, which may or may not take awhile depending who it is. For example, Borghak will marry you if you pay her dowry or convince her to leave her home whereas Aela will marry you only after you've completed the entire Champions story arc. 173.59.188.120 08:38, November 19, 2011 (UTC)

And what excatly can be done in Grelka's case? she's bachlorette too LOL

Are all of these confirmed? And if so does someone know if you can marry Ralof? Thanks. Pagan13 (talk) 11:49, November 19, 2011 (UTC)

I've added the requirements for some of the eligible candidates on the main page. These are the ones I can personally confirm. 173.59.188.120 19:01, November 19, 2011 (UTC)

Talking To Your Spouse
Is it just me or is the conversation with your spouse quite dull...

All we can talk about is her store, if she can make me food, and if we want to move.

I hope they add more context because right now its really boring.

— Spence32296 (talk) 21:31, November 19, 2011 (UTC)

welll i married with an ugly one wife.... i would love to know how can i divorce....and well... i would love to know if someone is creating some kind of kinky stuff patch to do with your wife.... because its so boring to have one -.-85.246.243.7 22:43, November 19, 2011 (UTC) please answer to [mailto:c_a_salgueiro@hotmail.com c_a_salgueiro@hotmail.com] thx bye

Lydia's Corpse
So Lydia keeps coming to my wedding. That would be fine and all except that she is dead!! Her corpse is lying there as soon as I walk in and the people in the temple tell me to get out! Is there any way around this? I'm on PS3.

I've read that when this happens you can ask for another chance to proceed with the marriage. Before the marriage, move your dead companion(s) to the basement of the Mara Temple. They will still count as being present but no one would know that they're dead. Drag3ndz (talk) 09:04, November 22, 2011 (UTC)

Idgrod the Younger
Concerning the newest input into the list, Idgrod the Younger (Nord Woman), I would like it verified by the origional source as to how one goes about proposing to her. I delivered a letter for her to Whiterun and although she gives friendly greeting like "It is a fine day with you around" wearing the Mara Amulet from the Temple will not activate a proposal. Do we have to complete the main Morthal Quest "Laid to Rest" in order to fully activate it? She is the daughter of Jarl Idgrod Ravencrone so it seems odd that she would pick and leave with just anyone.

Also, what the hell is with "Sussane the Wicked" and "Being found dead in Blood on the Ice"? Is this a joke?

184.91.52.118 05:55, November 20, 2011 (UTC) Had the same problem with Idgrod the younger, I've completed "laid to Rest" and been made Thane of Morthal as well as completing Idgrod's quest of deliver the letter to Whiterun. All I receive is friendly greetings no marriage proposal or any dialoge options.


 * Do you get any (text)dialoge with her at all, or just a line of talk? I've done the same and now she doesn't 'text' me at all. However, i guess/hope, maybe we just need to advance the main-quest, as I didn't even get her messager-quest before talking to the greybeards for example. 188.109.21.156 19:08, November 21, 2011 (UTC)

To whomever added the console command to edit the relationship rank
You are a god amongst men, and I thank you. 165.95.45.59 15:44, November 20, 2011 (UTC)


 * I have a video detailing the use of this code to fix some of the bugs (and to mess about marrying random NPCs) it also has annotations regarding the use of "setplayerrelationshiprank" to increase your disposition with any NPC and marry them. Some NPCs refuse to be married regardless of disposition and inclusion in the faction. Like Tullius and Ulfric, and Daedric princes. And seemingly Legate Rikke, but anyone you can get into a conversation with is fair game. Not tried a Khajit or Bosmer yet (since they don't have any normally marriable NPCs, their voice banks may not have the option to marry, and the dialogue might not show up at all)


 * http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enwWiuzyC4w


 * I can add it to the main page if it's worth it. Canazza (talk) 18:58, November 20, 2011 (UTC)

Funny forced marriages
Has anyone tried any amusing marriages with the force command? C'mon, I can't be the first person to think of marrying M'aiq... Nymphonomicon (talk) 19:40, November 22, 2011 (UTC)

as I found out here You can't marry Khajits. I don't think they have their voices recorded, or they just plain don't have the option coded in. Canazza (talk) 19:49, November 22, 2011 (UTC)

I'm pretty sure it's a coding issue. I saw plenty of instances in Fallout 3/NV and Oblivion where people inserted text dialogue in with mods to make characters "say" things that there was no voice for. Nymphonomicon (talk) 17:43, November 23, 2011 (UTC)

As far as I know, there are NO MARRIABLE KHAJITS in Skyrim. This is because of tthe fact that all Khajit characters in the game are either enemies (Bandits, etc.), random encounters (M'aiq, etc.), or members of the trading caravans. There may be exceptions, but even if there are, I don't think any of them are marriable. And personally, I would love to marry M'aiq... And I'm a guy... But how can you not love M'aiq? <<<>>>>

Actually, the caravan guard khajit can be married if you extract the sound files from another race and just rename the race part, not sure about others but tested it with my wood elf archer char and it worked (its kinda like the bug with Esbern not letting you trough his door in the Ratway).

Oh and on my first char (female argonian) i forced Alduin to marry me by first ordering him to be a companion (i think it would only work on the roaming one since he isnt set as a enemy towards normal npcs and you have to scale him to at least 0.4 or the house isnt usable), its funny to hear "die in terror" every time you enter your house.

Lami?
A day or two ago someone added the NPC Lami from Morthal as a marriage possiblity. I'd like to state that I've found this to be totally false, because she is not only married, but the quest that was mentioned with her appears not to exist. Can anyone actually confirm that they've married her without the console?

As bleak as it may seem, I'm thinking that the NPCs listed in the official strategy guide are the only NPCs we can marry without cheats. So, if it does so happen that someone discovers a marry-able NPC who isn't on the list, they should post it in the talk section for confirmation before actually editing the page.

Remarriage
You can remarry! Follow the steps listed here:

http://forums.steampowered.com/forums/showthread.php?t=2242491

Wearing the Amulet
Do I have to leave the amulet on? It does nothing for me, skill-wise. I want to wear my frickin' Amulet of Talos! Do I have to just keep the Amulet of Mara in my inventory? I know "divorce" happens when you sell/drop the amulet (according to the wiki) and I don't want that!

No, you don't have to wear it. 68.230.57.253 00:09, November 28, 2011 (UTC)

Remarriage for Console Players
Is remarrying after killing your spouse simply impossible for console players (specifically 360)? I tried the method of removing the Amulet from my inventory (by planting it on my wife's corpse, which conveniently despawned), and started the Temple of Mara quest. I got the Amulet and promptly ditched the quest to go chat up Muiri, then Sylgja; neither option worked. Does the quest need to be finished for this Amulet of Mara to work properly, or are console players just screwed until this is patched (which apparently won't be any time soon)?

I've heard that about one in-game month after the spouse's death, a courier will show up with your inheritance, at which point you can marry again. True or False?  Captain Baird  Comm-LinkService Record 02:47, November 29, 2011 (UTC)

I just tried this. I managed to get my wife killed by some daedra then waited 31 days and then ran around for another few days and no courier ever showed up. So for me, False. (I wanted to marry Aela the Huntress dangit!)97.114.85.188 08:27, December 1, 2011 (UTC)Cgod05

Did Bethesda Drop the Marriage Ball?
Anyone else feel that Bethesda dropped the ball with marriage? I mean....is it really too much to ask for (at the VERY least) 2 NPCs of each race to marry (one male, the other female)? It just seems to me that if you were going to advertise marriage as a big thing in your game, and even include same-sex marriages, you would put in an option for every race and every gender. It just seems a bit silly to me to have a khajiit marry an orc, or a nord marry a dark elf, but a khajiit can't marry another khajiit, or a wood elf can't marry another wood elf (I personally hate wood elves, but that's just me). I'm honestly hoping that Bethesda will add more options, or even make some existing characters able to marry. From the moment I met J'zargo, I fell in love with him.

Come on, Bethesda, pick up the slack! At least give us the bare minimum options, and don't hold back and skimp us.Furlock (talk) 15:04, November 30, 2011 (UTC)
 * How much did they "advertise" this and how much was it various press outlets making a big deal about it? Tyrasis (talk) 09:10, December 6, 2011 (UTC)


 * I guess next there's going to be clamor for a sex-patch? Ridiculous. In Fable marriage is mostly useless and a little annoying, sex is amusing (gang-bangs with cross-dressing, disease-riddled prostitutes??) but completely without satifaction...

Infighting
Be careful when dropping weapons & armor inside your home if you have a housecarl. Your spouse and housecarl may begin fighting over it indefinetly as they cannot kill each other.

Ive been slightly confused on something and im having no luck googling it can any 1 tell me who this is and where you can find her.

heres a link to a photo.

http://www.google.com/imgres?q=Gilfre+skyrim&hl=en&safe=off&gbv=2&biw=1192&bih=548&tbm=isch&tbnid=PIW9i_J-3pes5M:&imgrefurl=http://www.realsg.com/2011/11/guide-skyrim-marriage-how-to-and-list.html&docid=NjRNacEY4pdZ0M&imgurl=http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-EKMjtD4JX7E/TsBoJKtcjFI/AAAAAAAAA7c/_5OjR3DmLAU/s1600/Skyrim_woman.jpg&w=700&h=467&ei=vQDYTo2-E6OUiAKKzqGCCg&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=637&vpy=149&dur=2760&hovh=183&hovw=275&tx=127&ty=108&sig=109682743205997089640&page=1&tbnh=159&tbnw=239&start=0&ndsp=8&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:0

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Marriage should be improved
As everyone knows, marriage in Skyrim is extremy bland and rather pointless(some people would argue that's how it is in real life aswell :p)

All jokes aside(you gotta admit, that was a good one), I hope in one of the DLC's Bethesda actually give marriage more depth. I love Sylgja and all, but I'm tired of constantly hearing her call me "My love". All she's useful for is selling items too and getting 100 gold a day. If that was all I wanted I would have married the Orc.

PC users will have no problem with this as there will undoubtfully be mods which add lots more depth to marriage, as in proper dialogue, and maybe some couple animations. Us console users will have to rely on Bethesda to actually get their finger out and actually add this stuff for us. I mean i'm a guy, but even I wouldn't mind seeing some snogging nd cuddling once in a while, maybe even kids of our own to raise(I envy you PC users >.<)

I surely can't be the only person who thinks like this? By god even Fable has more depth to marriage then this, and thats saying something.

Jonathan28 (talk) 22:46, December 3, 2011 (UTC)

Shouldn't you be out slaying dragons or something?

Lol, from above, but really, marriage is bland and boring. I married Muiri, and her usual converstion with me is as follows:"Thanks for solving my...prombelm.

"Has the store made and money?"

And then I get the money blah blah blah. You can't even divorce, and too be honest bethesda was a let down on marriage.

Suggestions for future patches or mods?
I want Elisif the Fair to be a candidate for marriage. The Dragornborn has a pretty good claim to be the Emporer of Tamriel, I don't see why he/she can't marry the legitimate High Queen of Skyrim, even if she is recently widowed.

To be honest, while I do agree that the Dragonborn should be allowed to become Emperor(hopefully a future DLC will make this possible), marrying Elisif the Fair wouldn't really improve your chances. She is a Nord, and I doubt Cyrodiil would accept a Nord Emperoress, not after the Civil War.

I don't think that becoming the Emperor/ Empress would make game-play follow any sort of logic or story. While yes, I think a female player should have been able to, eh-hem, continue the Septim line in Oblivion (Martin was hot) and I think that the Dragonborn could (potentially) save the Empire but really, what happens to the game-play then?

Jonathan28 (talk) 12:52, December 8, 2011 (UTC)

Newly inroduced? It's unclear: was it introduced with a new patch? Or did somebody mean it's a feature not present in the previous ES games? Please clarify. --24.3.19.202 03:28, December 10, 2011 (UTC)

Crazy Deaths and/or Inheritances
I was married to Benor, and the first quest I ever had him follow me on (Taking a fort for the Imperial Legion) was going well. I wanted to keep him safe, so I told him to go home. Fast forward through the awesome slaying of the Stormcloaks...I was in Solitude, and a courier comes up to me to tell me Benor DIED. Yep...Died. Dead. So Lame. I sent the guy home and somehow, on the way he kicked the bucket. Good news: I got 400 gold off him for my inheritance. Still... StarlinSkyrim (talk) 20:29, December 10, 2011 (UTC)StarlinSkyrim

Dressing up your Spouse (PS3/360)
Did the new patch sorta make this impossible or something? I had read before that you could give any follower spouse better armor than their default, then buy their original armor from their store and then you could just put whatever you wanted on them. I just tried to with Aela and one of the Orc spouses and as soon as you take off the chest piece, their whole set of armor respawns on them. You can get away with the hands and feet, but taking the chest piece causes the whole thing to appear again on them, making it all useless... Hell Aela respawns TWO sets of nord hero armor... Is it just not possible now or am I missing some steps?--190.43.239.27 03:36, December 12, 2011 (UTC)
 * I think you have to leave a piece of there original armor with on them so they don't respawn it. I've yet to marry any of my characters off yet so I'm not sure about this. Hope this helps. Alpha Wolf-87 (talk) 18:11, December 12, 2011 (UTC)

Console Remarriage?
Is there any to remarry if playing on a console? (I own the game for PS3 and my spouse was murdered by a thief)

Spouse Merchant?
Do you have to relocate them to your house? If you marry Ysolda or other ncp do you have to move houses for them to open shop and if so does it have to be a differennt city Exp. Moving Ysolda to Breezehome = she opens a shop. Tbone11 (talk) 22:31, December 20, 2011 (UTC)
 * I'm pretty sure you have to move them to your house. The in-game reason for them opening the shop is, essentially, boredom. Tyrasis (talk) 06:37, December 21, 2011 (UTC)

Typo:

Since the page is locked I can't just fix it. It's "alludes" not "eludes". Allude means refer to. Elude means evade.

75.27.144.74 15:14, January 2, 2012 (UTC) Smiley

New marriage bug on patch 1.3.1
Everytime I try to get married, a random Bandit shows at my wedding, become agressive, and then everyone starts hating me and no marriage.

I managed to get married once on version 1.2, but my wife died.. (hit by a lighthing bolt from call storm shout)

I used the "reset marriage" tutorial that I found on this very page, (the one from steam forums) and I could propose again to other people, but I never get to complete my wedding again because of bandits crashing my party. I'm uploading a video, will post here when it is ready. Anyone had this issue? 189.32.209.198 23:51, January 2, 2012 (UTC)

there http://youtu.be/-VANR81hsGE 189.32.209.198 01:42, January 3, 2012 (UTC)

My wife has disappeared
Hey, My wife camilla disappeared and I can't find her and I can't find her store what do I do and where could I find her store at someone plz help me?Aaron Kramer (talk) 19:14, January 5, 2012 (UTC)Aaron K.

no marriage dialogue
hello! so im trying to marry my follower kharjo (cat race) and ive done all of the quests pertaining to love and have spoken to the priest guy about marriage. However, even though I have spoken to the guy, done all the quests, and have the necklace I dont seem to have any dialogue pertaining to marriage (proposing). Are there only certain people you can propose to? Help!!
 * Hey there! I'm very sorry to break it to you, but Kharjo is not a marriage option in Skyrim. Only certain people can be married. Unfortunately, no Khajiits can be married. You may, however, be able to force-married upon him, if you're on PC, through the use of Console commands, but this may permanently bug, and thus ruin, your game. --— Deyvid Petteys  (bother \   stalk)   06:38, January 9, 2012 (UTC)

Maramal dissapears from the game
At one point it happened to me that Maramal 'dissapeared'. I thought that he either died, or dissapeared. I thought that it might be because I had killed that other followed of Mara at Dawnstar. Another important detail is that I had talked to Maramal at the very start of the game, but couldn't buy his amulet just yet.

After some research; everyone told me that he is either at the Inn, or at the temple. but I couldn't find him at any of those places or in Riften for that matter. When I had to ask him to marry Grelka to me, there was an arrow pointing straight into Riften's wall (and declaring that Maramal is 'in the area'). So conclusion was that Maramal was disintegrated into Riften's defence. Alas this meant that I could not get married.

luckily, you can do the following:

1) Go to the temple of mara

2) Open the console (~)

3) click on yourself with a simple mouseclick

4) type "Help Maramal 4"

5) you'll get a list, and at the bottom you see the code for Maramal next to "NPC_" which is for me 0001335B (but on another website it was 00019DD5)

6) type "player.placeatme 0001335B" (or the code that you saw in your console window)

7) et voila, you got him back

some unlucky fellow apparently got him killed. if that happens you can use the code "resurrect 0001335B", "player.placeatme 0001335B" and eventually "enable 0001335B"

Maramal doesn't like me
I went to get married(on PC by the way), and for some reason, when i was waiting for the attendants, Brother Verulus respawned dead inside the temple next to the door. For some reason, it made my marriage quest failed, and now I can't talk to Maramal without him telling me to "Get out". I have use the resetquest console prompt, but I still can't initiate his quest dialogue. 123.2.148.125 22:23, January 20, 2012 (UTC)