Marriage is a gameplay element in The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. After obtaining the Amulet of Mara, the Dragonborn has the option to engage in marriage with an eligible character regardless of either party's gender. Although there is no discrimination based on race, there are no eligible Khajiit, Bosmer, male Redguard, or male Altmer candidates. Those that can be married generally require that a specific task be completed beforehand. Whether the partner is a merchant or not, after marriage, they are able to purchase and sell general goods, also allowing the Dragonborn to collect a daily portion of their profits from their "work." Every 24 hours, the Dragonborn can ask their spouse how business is faring to receive a share of 100 gold. If the share is not collected, the gold accumulates.
Obtaining the Amulet of Mara
- An Amulet of Mara can be bought from a priest named Maramal for 200 . He can be found at either the Bee and Barb or the Temple of Mara in Riften.
- Can be found as random loot in chests or on corpses.
- Can be found in the Lover's Tent on a beach north of Dawnstar directly behind the Dawnstar Dark Brotherhood Sanctuary.
- Received after completing "The Book of Love" quest.
- Can be pickpocketed off of guards.
Maramal must be asked about marriage in Skyrim before any dialogue related to the Amulet of Mara shows up.
The new dialogue is unlocked with certain characters if the Dragonborn is both wearing the amulet and has met the requirement relating to the individual, usually a quest. The Dragonborn can then express their wish to marry the person. Once that is done, they can speak to Maramal at the Temple of Mara about arranging the wedding.
The ceremony will start no sooner than approximately 24 hours. Maramal alludes to the ceremony time being constrained between dawn and dusk; however, the ceremony can happen at any given hour of the day. During the ceremony, the Dragonborn has one last chance to affirm the marriage before the ceremony proceeds.
Characters for whom quests have previously been completed or other characters who disposition is positive may appear at the wedding ceremony as guests. If the Dragonborn already owns any houses, then the corresponding housecarl(s) may also be present. In the case of a few potential spouses, characters who are important to that character may appear as well.
If the Dragonborn misses their wedding ceremony, they can approach the intended partner and ask for another chance. Maramal will then agree to host another ceremony, the next day.
Once the marriage ceremony is complete and the Dragonborn addresses their new spouse, the spouse will inquire where the Dragonborn wants to live. If the spouse owns property, that will be presented as an option; the Dragonborn may also select any of the house(s) they currently own. The selection need not be permanent; relocation to any of the available homes is available at any time by initiating the appropriate dialogue with the spouse.
If the spouse is the Dragonborn's housecarl, "their house" is the applicable house of the Dragonborn that they are responsible for.
Once married, the behavior of the spouse changes. Most notably, the tone of voice and behavior changes and they will often refer to the Dragonborn as "love" or "dear" from that point on. However, if the Dragonborn marries one of their housecarls, the Dragonborn will still be referred to as "my Thane" using subordinate dialogue.
If the Dragonborn's spouse relocates to a different city from where they originated to live in one of the Dragonborn's houses, the spouse may indicate that she/he wishes to become a shop owner to keep occupied while the Dragonborn is out adventuring.
If the Dragonborn sleeps in the house with the spouse, the Dragonborn will receive a temporary bonus called "Lover's Comfort," that boosts the rate of skill-learning by 15% for 8 hours. However, this bonus cannot be obtained if the Lover Stone is activated (a workaround can be used with the Aetherial Crown), or if the Blood Ritual has been taken to become a Werewolf.
If the Official Plug-in Hearthfire is installed, marriage can also include children. The Dragonborn's adopted child will also be adopted by the spouse, as well as instantly move into the house where the Dragonborn's new son or daughter is living. This adds another dialogue option with the spouse allowing the Dragonborn to ask how the children are; it also adds generic dialogue to the child, where an activity will be mentioned that they both did together.
Note: Because spouses act as vendors, the Dragonborn can buy and sell items from them. However, if the spouse is a follower and asked to follow the Dragonborn, the spouse will only sell items from their inventory until they part ways. Spouses only act as merchants in the marital home, meaning items cannot be sold to them while they are following (to reduce the carry weight, for instance).
|Aela the Huntress||Nord||Thief||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Aeri||Nord||Lumberjack||Anga's Mill, The Pale||Chopping firewood for her.|
|Anwen||Redguard||Priest||Temple of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of "The Heart of Dibella."|
|Avrusa Sarethi||Dunmer||Farmer||Sarethi Farm, The Rift||Collect 20 Jazbay Grapes for her.|
|Borgakh the Steel Heart||Orc||Orc Warrior||Mor Khazgur, Haafingar||Paying her dowry or convincing her to leave her home.|
|Brelyna Maryon||Dunmer||Mystic||College of Winterhold, Winterhold||Completion of "Brelyna's Practice."|
|Camilla Valerius||Imperial||Pawnbroker||Riverwood Trader, Riverwood||Completion of "The Golden Claw."|
|Dravynea the Stoneweaver||Dunmer||Mage||Kynesgrove, Eastmarch||Providing her with some Frost Salts.|
|Ghorza gra-Bagol||Orc||Blacksmith||Blacksmith Shed, Markarth||Providing her with The Last Scabbard of Akrash.|
|Gilfre||Imperial||Lumberjack||Mixwater Mill, Eastmarch||Working for her by chopping firewood.|
|HilundDR||Nord||Dremora Class||Bujold's Retreat/Thirsk Mead Hall||Complete Retaking Thirsk and collect 50 Riekling Spears for her.|
|Iona||Nord||Warrior||Honeyside, Riften||Becoming Thane of The Rift.|
|Jenassa||Dunmer||Ranger||The Drunken Huntsman, Whiterun||Hiring her.|
|Jordis the Sword-Maiden||Nord||Warrior||Proudspire Manor, Solitude||Becoming Thane of Solitude.|
|Lydia||Nord||Warrior||Whiterun||Become Thane in Whiterun after killing Mirmulnir during "Dragon Rising." Breezehome must be purchased for the marriage option. (Not available for marriage before 1.5 update).|
|Mjoll the Lioness||Nord||Warrior||Riften||Retrieving her sword Grimsever from the Dwemer ruins of Mzinchaleft.|
|MorwenDR||Nord||Dremora Class||Skaal Village||Freeing the Skaal, after delivering her mother's amulet to Runil in Falkreath.|
|Muiri||Breton||Apothecary||The Hag's Cure, Markarth||Completion of "Mourning Never Comes." Both targets must be killed to gain Muiri's affection.|
|Njada Stonearm||Nord||Warrior||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of the Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Orla||Nord||Priest||Temple of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of "The Heart of Dibella."|
|Rayya||Redguard||Warrior||Falkreath, Lakeview Manor||Become Thane of Falkreath and buy Lakeview Manor Deed.|
|Ria||Imperial||Warrior||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Senna||Breton||Priest||Temple of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of The Heart of Dibella.|
|Shahvee||Argonian||Citizen||Argonian Assemblage, Windhelm||Recovering her lost Amulet of Zenithar and returning it to her. She may be killed in the quest "Blood on the Ice," so it is recommended that she be married before starting this quest.|
|Sylgja||Nord||Miner||Shor's Stone, The Rift||Her satchel must be delivered to her father in Darkwater Crossing, then returned to her.|
|Taarie||Altmer||Tailor||Solitude||Completion of the miscellaneous quest "Fit for a Jarl"; the Dragonborn must also have the Investor perk on the Speech tree and must invest in Radiant Raiment.|
|Temba Wide-Arm||Nord||Citizen||Ivarstead, The Rift||10 bear pelts must be given to her.|
|Uthgerd the Unbroken||Nord||Warrior||The Bannered Mare, Whiterun||She must be bested in a brawl battle.|
|Viola Giordano||Imperial||Citizen||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm||Revyn Sadri's favor must be started, but he must be ratted out to Viola.|
|Ysolda||Nord||Citizen||Open market, Whiterun||She must be given a Mammoth Tusk.|
|Ainethach||Breton||Miner||Karthwasten, The Reach||Convince Silver-Blood Thugs to leave his mine.|
|Angrenor Once-Honored||Nord||Beggar||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm||He must be given a gold piece.|
|Argis the Bulwark||Nord||Warrior||Vlindrel Hall, Markarth||Becoming Thane of Markarth.|
|Athis||Dunmer||Warrior||Jorrvaskr Living Quarters, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Balimund||Nord||Blacksmith||The Scorched Hammer, Riften||Must be given 10 Fire Salts.|
|Belrand||Nord||Spellsword||The Winking Skeever, Solitude||Must be hired.|
|Benor||Nord||Warrior||Morthal||Winning a brawl against him.|
|Calder||Nord||Warrior||Hjerim, Windhelm||Becoming Thane of Eastmarch.|
|Cosnach||Breton||Warrior||Silver-Blood Inn, Markarth||Must be challenged to a brawl and bested.|
|Derkeethus||Argonian||Ranger||Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch||Must be rescued.|
|Farkas||Nord||Blacksmith||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Filnjar||Nord||Blacksmith||Shor's Stone, The Rift||Completion of the quest "Mine or Yours."|
|Gat gro-Shargakh||Orc||Miner||Left Hand Mine/Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach||Completion of the favor to Pavo Attius to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.|
|Ghorbash the Iron Hand||Orc||Ranger||Burguk's Longhouse, Dushnikh Yal, The Reach||Pay his dowry or convince him to leave.|
|GregorHF||Nord||Warrior||The White Hall, Dawnstar||Becoming Thane of The Pale|
|Marcurio||Imperial||Destruction Mage||Bee and Barb, Riften||Hiring him.|
|Halbarn Iron-FurDR||Nord||Dremora Class||Bujold's Retreat/Thirsk Mead Hall||Complete "Retaking Thirsk" and "Halbarn's Supplies."|
|Moth gro-Bagol||Orc||Blacksmith||Understone Keep, Markarth||Bring him a Daedra Heart.|
|Octieve San||Breton||Citizen||Solitude, frequently found in and around the Winking Skeever||Helping the gamblers pay off his debts.|
|Omluag||Breton||Citizen||Markarth Smelter, Markarth||Talk to Mulush gro-Shugurz in Markarth about the smelter workers.|
|Onmund||Nord||Sorcerer||The Hall of Attainment, College of Winterhold||Recover his Amulet from Enthir.|
|Pavo Attius||Imperial||Miner||Left Hand Mine/Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach||Completion of his favor to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.|
|Perth||Breton||Miner||Soljund's Sinkhole, The Reach||Clearing Soljund's Sinkhole of Draugr.|
|Quintus Navale||Imperial||Sorcerer||The White Phial, Windhelm||Completion of the Quest "Repairing the Phial."|
|Revyn Sadri||Dunmer||Warrior||Sadri's Used Wares, Windhelm||Bringing back stolen ring to Viola Giordano.|
|Roggi Knot-Beard||Nord||Miner||Steamscorch Mine, Kynesgrove, Eastmarch||Recover his Family Shield.|
|Romlyn Dreth||Dunmer||Thief||Black-Briar Meadery, Riften||Deliver Black-Briar Mead Keg to Wilhelm in Ivarstead.|
|Scouts-Many-Marshes||Argonian||Blacksmith||Argonian Assemblage in Windhelm||Talking to Torbjorn Shatter-Shield about the Argonian dock workers.|
|Sondas Drenim||Dunmer||Food Vendor||Goldenrock Mine, Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch||Delivering his note to Quintus Navale.|
|Sorex Vinius||Imperial||Food Vendor||Winking Skeever, Solitude||Delivering kegs of Stros M'Kai Rum to Falk Firebeard at the Blue Palace.|
|Stenvar||Nord||Warrior||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm||Hiring him.|
|Torvar||Nord||Warrior||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Vilkas||Nord||Warrior||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun||Completion of The Companions' story arc with "Glory of the Dead."|
|Vorstag||Nord||Warrior||Silver-Blood Inn Markarth||Hiring him.|
|Wilhelm||Nord||Food Vendor||Vilemyr Inn, Ivarstead, The Rift||Completion of the investigation of Shroud Hearth Barrow.|
The marriage dialog option can be forced to appear on characters by opening the console, targeting the desired character, and typing the command "
addfac 19809 1." This could possibly cause issues with characters who were not originally intended to have this option.
A friendship must have been started with the character in the form of a quest, as their disposition (which is a hidden stat) needs to be of a certain level in order for them to recognize the Amulet of Mara. Alternatively the command "
setrelationshiprank player 4" can be used after adding the person to the marriage faction. It is not possible to marry several of the people in the game, such as Ulfric Stormcloak.
- Forced marriages often work better on characters that share a voice actor with a marriageable character, because marriage dialogue is universal for a lot of characters.
- If the Dragonborn marries a Jarl with the
setrelationshiprankcommand, they can immediately buy a house from said Jarl as well. Note that these commands may cause buggy behavior when trying to become Thane of a Hold. However, a benefit of marrying an important character, such as a trainer at the College of Winterhold, is that one can choose to live with their spouse in the formal residence, since taking an item while one lives there does not count as stealing.
Trying to breakup with partners is impossible without the console commands. Searching for
help "breakup" 4 will bring up dialogue and quests that show reference to what most likely was the original intention of breaking up with a spouse.
The relationshipbreakup quest can be used.Use the console to enter these commands:
(This is just formality to reset the "marriage" quest.)
The above will prevent the Dragonborn from having to kill their spouse, although they will comment on how much even the thought of them makes their blood boil. Untested, but possibly
setrelationshiprank player 4 can fix this.
- The spouse must be killed
- The console command
Setstage RelationshipMarriage 10must then be used
- The console commands
resurrectshould next be used on the ex-spouse (and eventually the command
setrelationshiprank player 4on him/her to keep the relationship status obtained with the character related quests)
- The old Amulet of Mara doesn't need to be dropped or sold.
- The Amulet of Mara necklace must be retained, or another one must be found.
- Any wanted items should be taken from the current spouse before starting this process.
- The following commands must be used, after targeting the spouse:
setstage 74793 10
- The old spouse will immediately exit the house and return to their regular location.
- 24 hours must be waited.
equipitemcan be used on them (e.g.
equipitem 000d191f 1for the Tavern Clothes). The console command
removeitem <base_id> 1can be used to remove items like a pickaxe (
000E3C16), or clothes specifically. Be mindful that all Characters (including followers) come with a set of standard clothing that are tagged as their 'outfit'. Even when removing these clothes through the console, the character will try to put on the standard outfit when not following the Dragonborn, which can result in them being randomly nude while not following the Dragonborn (e.g.: waiting at their house, walking in the city).
To change the clothes of the partner, the console command
- The Dragonborn can also change their spouse's clothes on consoles if they are a follower by equipping them with items of better armor value and buying their normally-worn items in their shops; however, when not following they might be wandering in their underwear.
- The Dragonborn can kill their spouse by sacrificing them to Boethiah during the quest "Boethiah's Calling."
- If a spouse is killed, remarriage is not possible without the use of console commands.
- There is a number of potential marriage options cut from the game that still have related (but disabled) data included in the game files. Among those characters who were cut are Vivienne Onis, Ingun Black-Briar, and Elisif the Fair.
- The Dunmer of Raven Rock cannot be married via console commands. The Nords of Skaal Village can be married this way, but are bugged (and thus may not leave Solstheim).
- Serana has the option of proposal but will kindly refuse.
- If a follower is married and is currently accompanying the player, they can still provide homemade meals whilst not being near any cooking facilities. Also, they can still give the "profits" of their shops, even though they are following the player and would not had the opportunity to "sell" anything.
- All marriageable male Dunmer, with the exception of Revyn Sadri, share the same courtship dialogue about the Amulet of Mara and after-marriage conversations.
- Muiri is the only female spouse who is a dedicated apothecary, if Bothela is killed prior to marriage. Quintus Navale is the only male spouse who is a dedicated apothecary.
- If the Dawnguard add-on is installed, when talking with Florentius Baenius, the Dragonborn can occasionally learn that their spouse has been kidnapped by vampires at the beginning of the quest "Rescue."
This section contains bugs related to Marriage (Skyrim). Before adding a bug to this list, consider the following:
- Sometimes, the wedding ceremony won't actually start; the Dragonborn's spouse, guests, and Maramal are at the temple at the proper time, but the ceremony proper will not happen. Guests offer their generic congratulations, and the spouse expresses excitement, but nothing else happens and the quest will fail after a few in-game hours.
- Sometimes, Maramal will not show up at the temple until he is talked to at the Bee and Barb.
- If a follower (such as Lydia) dies before the wedding, their dead body will be present at the wedding.
- A scripted character may interrupt the wedding if the Dragonborn chooses to wait overnight in the Temple of Mara. For example: the priestess of Azura might make the Dragonborn miss their wedding if they recently completed the "The Black Star."
- When married to Camilla Valerius, Sven will still ask the Dragonborn to break up the relationship between Camilla and Feandal (in the quest "A Lovely Letter"). The Dragonborn can still complete the quest despite being married to her.
- If Aela the Huntress is taken to Riften to get married while on the quest to recover any Hircine totem, she will continue to normally follow the Dragonborn, but will disappear upon fast traveling.
- If a random Companions quest is accepted and the quest requires killing a monster that has invaded a home, that home may be the Dragonborn's. Upon entering the home no one will be there but the monster and the spouse will temporarily disappear from the game.
- With the Dragonborn DLC, the Dragonborn's spouse may never appear at the designated house, but wander around their default location instead.
- This can be fixed by making the spouse a follower before leaving the hold and leaving them in the Dragonborn's home, then making them a follower again and ask them about living somewhere else. Upon leaving them there, they will live there as normal.
- Another solution is to divorce the spouse and remarry.
- If Maramal is summoned through console commands and the original scripted Maramal was accidentally deleted, it may result in Maramal not present during wedding and the Dragonborn "automatically refuse" to marry the spouse.
- Sleeping in the same house with the partner may not result in the "Lover's Comfort" buff, only the standard "Well Rested" bonus.
- Any wife may stop cooking meals for her Dragonborn spouse after about 5–7 times.
- Aela the Huntress, have no voice recorded for when they are asked to show their merchandise. The subtitle will appear on screen and their lips still move but nothing will be heard. Some people that can be married, such as
During the marriage ceremony, after the spouse gives their vows, they will sometimes randomly leave the temple while Maramal is still talking, and will disappear, not to be found anywhere.
- This can be avoided by quickly leaving the ceremony and initiating conversation with the spouse about where to live.
- In rare cases, the wedding will not occur on the actual day, but the day after. The spouse will still say what they normally say (e.g. "It's our wedding day! I feel like the whole of Skyrim is focused on the two of us.").
- The marriage quest may fail after the wedding ceremony. If this happens, the Dragonborn should talk to their new spouse and ask them for another chance at marriage. This should automatically make the Dragonborn's new spouse work properly.
- Dawnguard radiant quest involving the potential spouse in question is completed. Potential spouses may call the Dragonborn "love" or "dear," despite not being married to them, or even being married to someone else. This most often happens after any